For years, I came home exhausted, questioning myself, wondering if I was really cut out for this work. I was smart, capable, and deeply committed—but still doubted my voice, second-guessed my influence, and felt like every day was a battle against resistance…and against my own confidence.

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But I couldn't see another way. I only knew the tools and principles I was taught.

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I remember one moment of this so distinctly.

I was driving to work and my mind wandered to what I had coming up for that day.

The dread didn't arrive all at once. It crept down onto me like hot tar poured from somewhere above, thick and black, coating every thought it touched. It oozed down the crown of my head, sliding down my neck and settling across my shoulders. Then it slowly seeped through my skin and muscle until it pooled in the pit of my stomach. Every task waiting for me suddenly felt heavier, as though I would have to drag it through that same sticky sludge just to get started.

This was the moment where I really thought, “What is the point? Why do I put myself through this hell just to go home and have to come back and do it again tomorrow? It’s exhausting.”

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This was my turning point. And eventually, I discovered:
The real struggle wasn’t “difficult people.”
The real struggle was the Resistobot™ running me.​

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When things got tough, different Resistobots™ would take the wheel:

• Commandax — when I tried to prove myself by pushing harder.

• Factron — when I hid behind data, afraid my voice wasn’t enough.

• Softstep — when I avoided conflict, even at the cost of my ideas.
  …and others that quietly drained my confidence and influence.

 

And here’s the kicker: the more I let Resistobots™ run me, the worse I felt and the worse the situation became. My reactions didn’t just hold me back—they invited more resistance from others.

 

Everything shifted when I learned to recognize them, uncover the fears underneath, and step back into leading with courage, compassion, and confidence. That’s when I stopped working against myself—and stopped fueling the very resistance I was trying to overcome.​

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And here’s the good news: there’s another way. By practicing the six traits of a C.H.A.N.G.E. Shaper™— Connecting, Helping, Advocating, Navigating, Getting to the right people, and Energizing — you assemble into something far more powerful:
The C.H.A.N.G.E. Shaper™.

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Where Resistobots™ thrive on fear and self-doubt, the C.H.A.N.G.E. Shaper™ thrives on influence, confidence, and courage.

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Today, I coach women in CI roles (CI Warriors™) to do the same—to quiet their Resistobots™, step into their full presence, and lead change with more confidence, comfort in coaching, skill at handling resistance, and the ability to persuade with ease.

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Because here’s the truth:
You are not “too much.”
You are not “not enough.”

You are exactly the leader your organization needs—you just need the tools and support to feel it and to step away from your Resistobots™ and into your C.H.A.N.G.E. Shaper™.

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Change doesn’t have to drain you. It can empower you. It can lift you up. It can even feel easy.

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And I’d love to walk that journey with you.

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Let’s get started.